-What should I start incorporating into my life?
-What should I stop doing / saying in order to gain more influence?
If you aspire to lead, you need to (1) focus on Self-Awareness.
I call this "Mirror Gazing." This is the first step because in order to lead others you must lead yourself. Leaders first have to "be" before they can "do." This stage is painful, because this is where you will expose the blind spots in your life that hinder your potential. Some suggested tools to help you grow in this area are: Eleventalents Website, Emotional Intelligence & The Johari Window. There is simply no substitute for self-awareness, so start taking a long look at yourself get make sure you have some very thick skin.
(2) Give your attention to Developing your Skills.
Developing your capabilities to lead is imperative. This is all about practical experience. Here is a simple way to think about this area: This is information you will put down on your resume. A list of tangible achievements that you actually performed. Therefore, find ways to put what you are learning into practice. Your potential for leading will increase as you grow your capability to lead. Take the time to read thought provoking material(s), surround yourself with successful people, find ways to observe their practices and then get creative on implementing those principles. There is nothing like real-life experience; so find ways to apply what you are learning about yourself & the leadership lessons you have been learning in an environment that encourages growth.
The next area you will give attention to is Resource Management.