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Thursday, November 18, 2010

Thou Shall NOT Facebook!?

NEPTUNE, N.J. — Thou shalt not commit adultery. And thou also shalt not use Facebook.
That's the edict from a New Jersey pastor who feels the two often go together.
The Rev. Cedric Miller said 20 couples among the 1,100 members of his Living Word Christian Fellowship Church have run into marital trouble over the last six months after a spouse connected with an ex-flame over Facebook.   

Because of the problems, he is ordering about 50 married church officials to delete their accounts with the social networking site or resign from their leadership positions. He had previously asked married congregants to share their log-in information with their spouses and now plans to suggest that they give up Facebook altogether.

On Sunday, he plans to "strongly suggest" that all married people to stop using Facebook, lest they endanger their marriage.

My Perspective on the above issue is that eliminating Facebook might be the solution for some people, but the problem lies deeper than a Facebook account. 

Could it be that the problem is within a person's heart?  

Remember, Jesus teaches that the outside actions of a person always follows the inside desires and thoughts.

-HOW to avoid these types of issue are not always the easiest things in the world, but during premarital counseling, I tell couples to avoid the relational "Bermuda Triangle".  That pretty much means that couples have to take steps to set clear boundaries within the relationship.  And when doing so, they need to sit down and talk about these kinds of issues that may destroy a relationship.     

This may range from friends, family, entertainment, and of course old relationships.  One thing to always keep in mind is the word RESPECT.  Respect is one of the greatest gift that you can give your spouse.  So whether on Facebook, renting a movie, deciding with whom to hang out with and and where...respect helps guide you when making these kinds of decisions.

What do you think?  Is there any other suggestions you would like to make?

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