Think about it, when two people meet and start dating, they must accept certain constraints that each person alone did not have.
-Schedules will be realigned.
-Plans will be adapted.
-Morphing of new ideas will take place.
When two people choose to focus their attention on each other, both will have to change their habits; as a result, the pattern of their lives will have to change.
Getting married requires a radical and permanent reorientation of habits.
Taken a step further, when a child is added to the mix, both parents (presumably at this point in their relationship, have pretty much the same life goals and worked out the above concept) have to re adapt again to accommodate the needs of the infant.
-Their sleep cycle changes.
Before you are in a relationship, you are single.
You basically are responsible for you.
As a bachelor, surely you have many goals and plans that are thrilling.
However, when you enter into a relationship with another person, your goals will have to be rethought.
And when I say rethought, that means sitting together with your significant other and hashing things out.
Let's use the example of Phil.
As a bachelor, Phil may have on his list of priorities to become a high-flying trapeze artist. Later, Phil meets Katie and then decides to get married. A couple years later they have a child together.
What does this mean?
So many people approach relationships like they are the center of the universe.
Many maintain that they can and will act just like when they were single.
This is why so many relationships fail.
The reality is when you enter into a relationship, a part of you must die.
I know that last statement sounds harsh. However, for you to be humble enough to consider your mate and value them, you must be ready to give up something of your own. And many times, that will hurt. But this, I think, is the meaning of true love.
True love seeks the good of the other person, not just yourself.
-Do you agree that you should consider your significant other?
-Do you think that you should give up a dream of yours, even if it goes against the grain of your family?