Working on a Dream




Wednesday, February 15, 2012

When you have a problem with EVERYone; everyone is NOT the problem.

John Maxwell, in his interesting book, Winning with People, shares a principle worth repeating here in Working on a Dream
He introduces us to a person he calls Bob.  

Bob actually has an entire chapter dedicated to him.
------The reason is because Bob has a problem with everyone.

Bob's problem is that he is a problem carrier.  Like a single chirping cricket that sits right outside your bedroom window, Bob loves to carry his problems around and use the world as his sounding board.  Sadly, Bob's troubles do not end here.

Bob is also a problem finder
You can find Bob criticizing people after events, because Bob never helps with them. Because of this, he reasons to himself that he is at liberty to mouth off; nitpicking what didn't work or what should have been.  Which translates into what Bob really likes; creating problems.  See Bob is a major tool.  He sits back, frozen in his fear and just watches.  Never getting into the game, he stammers on the sidelines of life all the while searching with his critical eye.

I have heard that we all carry two buckets in life. One filled with water and one filled with gasoline.  We can choose to either put out a fire with the water or douse gas on a situation and make it worse.
         -----Bob comes equipped with 5 gallons of gas in one hand and a lighter in the other.

Finally, Bob is a problem receiver.   Misery loves company; birds of a feather flock together and so on.  The bottom line is that the Bob's of the world attract other Bob's

Are you Bob? 

Are you a problem Carrier?
A problem Finder?
A problem Creator?
or A problem Receiver?

--Take some time and reflect on your life. 
If you were to ask those closest to you, would they say that you fit the above description?  Start today and create a new pattern filled with positive memories! 

1 comment: said...

Obviously, most of us run for the hills when we see this Bob, bob, bob, bobbing along...