What is "The Lens Principle?"

The Readiness Question: Are You Prepared for Relationships?

Not everyone has the skills to initiate, build and sustain

good, healthy relationships. Many people grow up in dysfunctional households and never have positive relationships modeled for them. 

Some people are so focused on themselves and their needs that others might as well not even exist. Still others have been hurt so badly in the past that

they see the whole world through the filter of their pain.

Because of huge relational blind spots, they don’t know

themselves or how to relate to people in a healthy way. It

takes relationally healthy people to build great relationships.

The Lens Principle:

Who you are determines what you see and the way

you see it. 

What is around us doesn’t determine what

we see:

What is within us does. 

And who you are determines how you see others. If you are a trusting person,

you will see others as trustworthy. If you are a critical

person, you will see others as critical. If you are a car-

ing person, you will see others as compassionate.

-The way you view others is determined by who you are-

If you don’t like people, that really is a statement about you

and the way you look at people. Your viewpoint is the problem. If that’s the case, don’t try to change others. 

Don’t even focus on others; focus on yourself. 

If you change yourself and become the kind of person you desire to be,

you will begin to view others in a whole new light. 

And that will change the way you interact in all of your relationships.